Just Say No to Married Men

Well, I can't get into my blog post today without admitting that all of this Tiger talk got me fired up. I'm a firm believer that Tiger Wood's business is Tiger Wood's business. He shouldn't have had to share his personal life with the world simply because he was involved in a solo traffic accident outside of his own home that resulted in a citation for careless driving.

Whether Tiger fooled around on his wife or not, there's been a ton of talk lately about infidelity. It is my belief that women need to Just Say No to Married Men. I've created a T-shirt and maybe the next step is to write a book, I'm not sure, but I do think this Just Say No mindset is needed. So many men are crucified for cheating on their wives, and yes, wives cheat as well, but the negative concept of men who cheat is much greater. I have been hit on by married men, I have friends who date married men, I know women who are wives whose husbands have a mistress, or two. And what I believe is that we women can only help ourselves by raising our standards and refusing to date men who are knowingly taken, and especially men who are married, if for no other reason than we must respect ourselves. And also because of the fact that the unsuspecting wife at home whose husband is in a hotel room with his chick on the side, could be you.

Luckily, I've never experienced the issue of being cheated on by a husband, but I do hear from lots of women who complain about their cheating spouses. We blame men time after time, but as Steve Harvey said during an interview on Good Morning America a while back, men wouldn't cheat if there was no one to cheat with. At first I thought that statement was a cop-out - a way of blaming it all on the other woman. Men need to control themselves and think with their upper head, not the lower one. But then I thought about it some more, and in my opinion, he was absolutely correct. We women must learn to Just Say No to Married Men - whether he's buying us a two-piece meal, or a diamond tennis bracelet, or paying our rent - we need to value ourselves more and demand that men value us as well. I know it's tempting, all of you ladies who give in, but how much is our self respect worth? Can you put a dollar value on it? Let's leave that to the hookers on the street.

And so, I guess you could say I'm on this crusade to encourage women to think twice the next time "someone's husband" calls and wants to come by and spend stolen hours, or the next time you meet up with him on vacation knowing that at 6:00 a.m., he'll need to call his wife while you lay next to him in silence like a good little secret. We women, and I include myself, must start respecting the wife/girlfriend/main squeeze. If we contribute to the problem, we can only point the finger back at ourselves. This is no cure for cancer, but being mindful can make a difference by curbing this cheating epidemic, one NO at a time.

I've created a blog that launches on December 15, 2009 - http://www.justsaynotomarriedmen.com/. I've gotten dozens of orders for T-shirts, and I'll continue to talk about it as long as others wish you share their stories. We'll have guest bloggers - faithful married men - cheating men - cheating women - deceived wives - the other woman, etc., and we'll chat about what we can do to encourage monogamy. And who knows, maybe I'll create a Just Say No to Married Women T-shirt, too. But for now, I'll start right here by saying simply - what goes around, comes around. Karma is a bitch! And karma's name just might be Bambi!

Your thoughts are welcomed! :-)